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It can feel Anyone wanna meet for a drink or movie little less nerve-racking to invite someone out this way. When you suggest something spontaneously you can't always expect the other person will be available to go, so it doesn't sting as much if they say no.
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The group of people you're inviting out could all know each other fairly well already, and you're trying to join their clique. Or everyone could be fairly new to each other, and you're doing your part to try to form a new social circle. The Anyone wanna meet for a drink or movie act of inviting a group out is similar to asking a single person to do something. Some people also find trying to organize a group event less scary, since if it doesn't work out the rejection is more diffuse.
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If you go this route, someone may turn you down just because they're not comfortable with the idea of meeting a whole bunch of people they don't know and feeling they have to make a good impression on them. Once they've hung out with someone a few times, Anyone wanna meet for a drink or movie the Big beautiful women Duluth personal ads friendship feels more solid, I think most people are okay with making further invitations.
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Most of those worries don't amount to much though, and inviting the person to hang out again is pretty straightforward. You Anyone wanna meet for a drink or movie quickly acknowledge you haven't spoken in a bit, then invite them to do something like you normally would.
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